I told a few of my close friends about my husband's affair, but only told one family member - one of my sisters whom I am closest to.  Unfortunately, I did not anticipate what would happen between us.

I understand that she loves me and does not want to see me hurting; however, I did not expect that she would not be supportive of me and my decision to save my marriage.  She is not a very optimistic person by nature and is very mistrusting of virtually everyone.  She immediately started bashing my husband, encouraging me to leave, and creating worst-case scenarios of how he would never change, etc.  She said that if I chose to stay in my marriage that she would never speak to him again.

So, basically, I chose my husband over my sister.  She does not understand my decision and now sees me as weak and insecure.  I hate that I had to lose her over this - it hurts so much - but it was a sacrifice I had to make.  Other friends don't understand how or why I could stay, but I guess you never know what you will do until it happens to you.  At least they are supportive and respect my decision.

I remember Joe saying that many people told Alice not to take him back, but she did anyway.  I would be interested in hearing how she (or anyone else) has dealt with this type of issue.

Thanks!