Stuck,

It is very typical, and normal for you to feel the way you do. After a spouse has an affair, the one that was cheated on will have a hard time trusting again. It may take up to a year for him to gain your trust back. Until then, you might want to sit him down and talk it all out again. This time ask questions that you want answers to. But, remember that once you ask it, be sure you want to know the answer because once he tells you, he cannot untell you. That is part of the healing process...feeling that he is not hiding or keeping anything from you. And when he does answer something and you don't like that answer, DO NOT punish him for it! If you have a negative reaction such as "how could you feel that way?!" or "She's such a slut!!!" etc, then that will teach him to lie to you. And you don't want that. Not if you want to get your relationship back to where it needs to be.

A good route would be for you and your husband to attend a LovePath 911 workshop. Even though the affair has already happened, you both still need to heal from it. And the weekend workshop will put you on that road quickly! Then after the workshop you can look into getting a marriage counselor to follow up with you.