My husband of 12 years is having a relationship affair.  This is not his first affair, but the first one that he is willing to hang on to.  I confronted him and he has been totally honest about the affair.  He is unwilling to stop the affair.  I know I should just give up, but I love him and we have an 8 and 11 year old that will be devastated by divorce.  He says he is trying to decide what he wants and is still living with us, but not having anything to do with me.  I think he is only staying because he needs my financial support. I want to save my marriage, but his indecision is making me a crazy person.  How do I make things better when he is obviously in love with someone else.  I just dont know how to act.   

First of all...I'm so sorry you are having to deal with this at all! I said a prayer for you. My husband recently had an affair with my BEST friend! it was the most painful thing I have ever had to deal with in my life. The affair was somewhat short...about 6-7 weeks, but involved sex, lies, etc... We also have children and were on the brink of divorce. Fortunately, the other woman(and her husband) moved to another state, and my husband confessed everything in front of our congregation, etc.. It was a horrible thing for me, but with my pastor's wisdom, I understand why it had to happen. Anyways, if your husband realizes what an amazing woman he has in you, he will want to stay and make things right. If not, you need to make the right decision for you and your children. My marriage is really healing, but not a day goes by that I don't see her face, or think about things they did. It will forever ruin part of my heart. Please talk to God about this...and seek councelling with someone you trust, maybe a minister or his wife. You need to talk and not keep things in. Blessings to you!

Coblet,

I'm sorry things are rough right now! Have you looked into attending the LovePath 911 workshop? I really think that will help sort things out between the two of you.