About a month a go found that that my wife was having an affair for 2 months.  Whats worse she was bring him home in my house when i was out of state for work.  Even worse I was caring for my dying mother which she knew but still was meeting him and calling at home. When i came home and saw your FB messages and confronted to which she acknowledged . as of now we plan to go for concealing but there is not initiative from her. According to her she feels that she does not know how she feels and is trying to figure out how she landed her and how to pick up the pieces for it to get better between us.  I just feel she is not trying hard as I am talking to her more than she talking to me.  Not sure what to do next........

Hey ncguy,
been married nearly 8 yrs now have 4 yr old girl n she now preganet with our next girl 3 month into pregnancy.9 months ago found out she was txting someone had no proof n she claimed didn't know the number so I had to start digging it out wat I could find   between mobile phone computer hand bag and most affective one was my temper after finding out bit after bit and her lies denies and bullshit that night Neigbour rang police as they thought I was flogging her and my daughter (never ever have laid a finger on either ) she did say to police I never touched nor assaulted her or my girl kept me in over night to cool down released in the morning on my way back home I rang up n Bacall phone records from that number emailed tO me I swear to god if u saw it you would ask what was my 4 yr old doing as her phone was non stop txt pic msgs face book anyway kept digging it up n by the 4 weeks later found 9 guys she was involved with now don't know if they all were sexual but I know least 6 two from her work one was with for year n half  others were married men imagine how I felt/reacted/retaliated won't get into that but after 2months apart we decided to try fix on conditions everything be told confessed for the whole time since we met,gave her time as I could sort of understand the shame guilt etc she would be feeling asked her tonight after several months Passing n question was why did she do it ? Cried said didn't know that I already new couldn't remember n kept crying.........