Just wondering if anyone who has survived an affair has advice on how to re-kindle that special bond you have with your spouse. I love my husband (he had an affair with a co-worker that lasted about a year, but I stayed and co-worker has been out of his life for almost a year now) but when we are intimate I don't feel the way I used to. That internal feeling of warmth and goodness is missing for me. I'm hesitant to share this with him because I don't want to hurt his feelings. I'm wondering if its because I had to become numb in order to continue life while the affair was going on.

Any advice/ideas?

Thanks.

Take some time bonding and talk about the first day you both met and other special things you experienced together. Talk about how these things made you happy or even laugh so much.  Recall the things that you both did in the earlier stage of your relationship. Doing these simple things can allow you to rekindle the love in your marriage.