well the pills and alcohol was just a one time thing.i have not had any alcohol in a year(learned the hard way it destroys your life) the meds were scripts and in a drunken stuper and anger thats what happened.how do i convince him that i had done "nothing "wrong (cheated) since we met. he says the trust is gone.how do i get that back?
Trust is something that's generally not broken unless there's a reason and not gotten back unless it's earned. If I had to make a guess I would say these two things are true:
1. His lack of trust isn't from a misunderstanding about what you said but rather from the fact that you cheated on your previous husband.
2. He is using the trust issue as an excuse to do what he wants, which is flirting with another woman.
As I mentioned, trust is earned. Stay true to him and go do the things I mentioned in my previous post and let everything that comes from your mouth from then on be the gospel truth. When he sees you are who you say you are and that you haven't just been waiting for the first chance to find someone new, you will keep earning that trust back.
Please keep in mind, as hard as it may be, that you need to get your life in order and be a positive influence on yourself and those around you. That has to happen, so when he does see the direction your life is taking he will want to be a part of it.
Consider this a bump in the road hon and make him SEE that you are what you say you are.
You and God can do this.
Sean
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