My husband is in the Airforce and we have only been married two years. We argue on occasion but i never thought it was anything substantial since it was basically about schedules or what to get at the grocery store. He travels out to the nuclear missle sites for four days at a time so I am used to him being gone a lot. By the way we have two children ages just 1 and 2.
But his last tour was different. He came home as usual and was acting weird all night. Finally when we put our kids down he pulled me out to the garage and told me a huge list of things at once.
a) He wanted to postpone/cancel the wedding. (we have been saving for our wedding since we origionally got married in 2010... being military doesnt allow a lot of room for being together or living together if youre not married.)
b)he was 50/50 on even loving em anymore and didnt know if he wanted to be married.
c) he wanted to move out.
d) I am no longer attractive to him.
Mind you this is completely out of the blue... there was no fight, no arguing, and i thought generally it had been a good day. What did I do wrong? I work as a teller and am trying to pull my weight as a wife but I dont think i am financially stable without him as we were relying on the military for a lot of our general expenses.
What happened? Anyone know? What can I do? Is there any hope left? Im just so lost..... we have already had this conversation like four or five times but I dont have any clear answers.... How could he abandon me and my children like this? and furthermore, what makes this worth it to him? I need some serious help.