Joe,
My wife of 15 years has had an ongoing affair for almost 2 years now. I discovered it about a year and a half ago. Our reactions to each other are so stereotypical, it's almost like we are getting our marching orders from the infidelity web-sites. I have done all I am capable of to heal our marriage, with all the typical results. We now no longer speak to each other at all, and she is busy rewriting history and spreading lies to justify her actions. I can not save this alone, and I'm worn out trying. This coming Monday at 1:00, I am starting the process for separation. I have not decided whether to pursue legal separation or divorce yet. I am hoping some quite reflection and intense prayer to the Lord this weekend will help me make that decision.

Mrac

of course, the first thing you'd do would be to save the marriage and the relationship, but after a while when every possible stategy has been exhausted, it's like banging your head on a brick wall. I'd say get out of that hell hole, before you lose your self respect.