I married 15 months ago with a very short dating time. I was foolish I know. but when we met we both wanted the same things. Well she has changed what she wants several times in those months and I can not do things she has changed.
I am a very old Christian but evidentally there are fatal flaws in my character. One is trusting too much too soon.
She loves her two dogs most of all. She is controlling in a big way. She wants to divorce me because I can't love the dogs the way she does. They are "her children" to her. She is not really a Christian who has had a renewal of her mind. She thinks like she always has and when I try to show her what the Bible says about sin issues she ignores what I say.  What she said was" I have been alone for a long time and I just need to be alone from now on." I know that is not true but she can lie with a straight face to me for convenience. She is 60 lbs overweight and will not consider her health. I believe she likes to be sick.
I have learned that she is self-destructive and will do anything her emotions tell her to.
In Tennessee you must be living apart for 6 months to justify a divorce. That gives me about 5-6 months to do something to help her. I don't really care to live with her as it is but I do care about her soul.
As her husband, I can not abandon her to save my feelings. I don't believe GOD would honor that.
I guess all I can do is talk with others in crisis and stay focused on getting her as much prayer as possible that GOD will bless my prayers to help change her heart.