she's hurt and angry. Can't blame her for that. Could be that part of her anger is toward herself for agreeing that you could have contact with the other lady. If you both still love each other, there is hope, but you will have to dramatically change some things in your relationship. We'd love to help.
Thank you so much. We've both said that we still love and care about each other. She says I am mistaking her not loving me for her not being able to live with me. She says she loves me and cares for me but she just can't live with me. I'm all up for any change I need to make. More than willing. But I have failed to make the changes i want to make so badly sometimes (simple things...like her asking me to pay the satellite bill last week and reminding me 3 times and I still somehow managed to forget...my counselor has diagnosed me as ADHD...which doesn't help matters). That's just a simple thing, but it comes across to her as disrespect. As me not caring enough about her and her needs to do what she asks of me. And, at least for me, it doesn't feel like it is about how much I care. I feel like I care about her and her needs more than anything in this world - and yet I still fail. Now, before this past year...I didn't put her needs ahead of my own...and least not to the level I should have. But whether or not I will get a chance to make these changes a reality to her remains to be seen I guess. I love her, no doubt there. I'm willing. But she's "tried for 16 years and tired of trying". But I'll keep on praying and keeping my faith strong. Thank you.
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