Here’s the inquiry we received on our website (names removed):

Came across your website, I’m reaching out because [casting company] and a major cable network are currently casting a new show looking for monogamous married couples who are willing to participate in a social experiment for a new TV series that will explore the boundaries of their relationship. Wanted to check in to see if you knew any couples who might be going through a crisis or hardships in their relationship and wanted marriage counseling and guidance and might be interested in exploring an open relationship for the first time. If so, feel free to forward this email over to them or share any info on your page. If you have any questions, I’m open to giving you more details.

My Open Letter

Dear Casting Agent,

I am so glad that you contacted us regarding your upcoming casting needs.

I believe that I will be able to help you more than anyone else that you will contact.

We work with hundreds and hundreds of marriages in this very situation every month: monogamous, experiencing marital distress, wanting so badly to find the passion they once had in their marriage.

Time and time and time again, we have also seen marriages that have done exactly what your “social experiment” will be doing –
participating in open relationships.

Let me tell you how it ends. Let me tell you the results you will find.

Not only do countless research studies show the detrimental outcomes of having an open marriage, but we have been the ones that these couples come to because they have ruined their lives by doing this.

The premise of this show is disgusting. It is exactly what is wrong with marriages in America today. Thinking that people should do
whatever makes them happy instead of doing what is right is tearing families apart left and right.

People involved in open relationships ruin their marriages. It might be fun and exciting for a brief period, but over time guilt sets in. Resentment for ever doing it in the first place begins. Self-esteem dwindles to nothing. Mixed feelings develop that lead the person to doubt staying with their spouse. Divorces occur. Children are left to catch the brunt of these horrible decisions.

I don’t know how someone with a good conscience could be affiliated in anyway with this program.

If this is a true experiment, then I sure hope that in your disclaimer to participants you let each and every person know that by doing this, they are ruining their marriage. They are ruining their children’s futures. They are ruining any possibility of a healthy and happy sex life. They will have to live with an extreme amount of guilt, heartache, and regret for what they have done to their families.

So yes, I know many couples who are experiencing marital issues. There is no way I would ever refer them to anything like this.

In fact, you may want to keep my contact information so that you can relay it to all of the marriages that will be permanently damaged with this experiment.

We, unlike this show, will actual save marriages, keep families together, and do the right thing. We will do our mission that we are
proud of and that we can sleep peacefully at night by doing.

I sincerely hope you reconsider this decision.

Kimberly Beam Holmes
Chief Operating Officer
Marriage Helper

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8 thoughts on “An Open Letter to New Marriage Reality TV Casting Agency

  • January 31, 2015 at 1:18 pm

    Good job Kimberly. I cannot even believe they contacted you.

  • February 2, 2015 at 9:30 pm

    Absolutely outstanding! You told them what they needed to hear!

    I’m only bummed that I didn’t think to do this same thing when they contacted me.

  • February 2, 2015 at 11:30 pm

    Kimberly / Joe,

    Love the reply. Timely and well articulated. Thank you for all that you do to authentically impact marriages.

    • February 5, 2015 at 10:54 pm

      Thanks for all the support! We have to stand for what we believe in.

  • February 22, 2015 at 11:01 pm

    You know what? Our society is messed up enough, what with broken marriages, one parent families, same sex marriages, kids being raised up not knowing any morals at all, not to mention all of the filth they hear in their music on the playground & on the streets. Now you want to encourage, no, instigate more of this immorality & lewdness on TV again! Don’t we have enough already! Before you produce & present this, why don’t you go to the Bible, God’s word, to see what He has to say about this “Wicked & corrupt” generationj!? If I were you, I wouldn’t be able to lay my head down at night, knowing that God, the creator of the whole universe, would be judging me for my actions, and for what? To increase my stash of the almight dollar!!

    • February 24, 2015 at 1:26 am

      Angela, I hope you see that it is not us that wants to produce this show. I gave a pretty blunt response to them about how awful I think it is…Hope you read the whole thing!

  • March 16, 2015 at 2:56 am

    Absolutely stellar response. Mentoring, counseling, and saving marriages is hard enough without having to help fight against the allure of being paid to be unfaithful! Thank you for standing for what is right and good! May God bless all of y’all and your families!

  • May 16, 2015 at 5:21 pm

    It is such a shame that Hollywood is so strapped for good ideas that they can not come up with better ideas to help our society.
    Here is a thought. Why don’t you guys produce a show to show our country how to live and be happy. How we can make marriage and family work. Then maybe we can get back to being a GREAT country.
    We all need help to navigate this crude, cruel word.


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