If you’re considering divorce and are wanting to know the cons of divorce, here’s a list that might be helpful for you in your decision-making process.

It’s possible that not all of these cons will apply to your exact situation. Many people think that these cons won’t happen to them if they divorce, but in collecting this list from divorced individuals we found that’s exactly what they thought as well.

  1. You have to worry about who is with your children: Has your spouse chosen a good person to bring into your children’s lives? Or is this person dangerous, cruel, irresponsible, or a bad example?
  2. Your friends will start to avoid you because all you talk about is your divorce.
  3.  It’s obvious to everyone that you are divorced and wounded because you are alone at church, restaurants, movies, coffee houses, grocery stores (you buy frozen dinners and pizza).
  4. You date a person and still have to put up with their ex and yours. So you’re fighting other people’s battles or getting them involved in yours even if you don’t intend to.
  5.  Most members of the opposite sex will dump you after one date because you are one of the walking wounded and you talk about your divorce.
  6. Your heart will be torn from your chest each time you have to watch your child cry as they are going back to their other parent’s house.
  7.  You will not be able to console your child as he/she cries for the spouse that is not there and wants their family together.
  8. Christmas eves alone or Christmas days when your children can’t play with the great toys you got them as they leave to go to the other parent’s house at 1:00 pm.
  9.  Legal battles against your spouse leave your children in the middle watching mom and dad tear each other apart and spend thousands or hundreds of thousands of dollars on divorce attorneys. And yet you thought your spouse would never try to use your children as leverage or weapons! You also thought your now ex spouse would never keep your children from you. Divorce changes everything and lawyers know that getting you two to fight makes them money!
  10.  No dates for important events in your life, everyone is busy or dating someone else.
  11. Thanksgiving dinners with your family where you are the only one without a spouse or date.
  12. New Year’s eve with a different date every year or no date at all because it is your night to have the kids.
  13. Valentine’s Day with a different date other than New Year’s eve date or none at all.
  14. No one to share ups and downs of life, joys and successes or losses.
  15. Heartbreak weekly, monthly and yearly…..Ms. (or Mr.) Right is rarely the first one to show up.
  16. You find out the phrase “I will love you forever” last between 36 and 48 hours or until their lawyer convinces them to “get tough” with you.
  17. Your friends think you are single and your single friends think you are married.
  18.  You are the prodigal son and lose your church home, you just don’t fit.
  19.  You are too old to be in the singles classes and too single to be in the married classes at church.
  20.  You will not have financial security because you never know when a judge will decide that you “owe” your spouse more money. Now days,
    since women are breadwinners or seen as capable of earning/getting a job, this applies to women as well.
  21.  You never have enough money for children and dating.
  22.  You have to find a good person that is worthy of being in your children’s lives…what if you are wrong?
  23.  You hurt your children by unintentionally making them think the divorce is their fault….get ready for lots of therapy with school therapist
  24.  The shame of being divorced. (Even in this day and age, there’s a “shame” associated with divorce. Trust us)
  25.  The feelings that you are a failure as a spouse and lover.
  26.  You will be overwhelmed with financial and emotional burdens.
  27.  Loss of your extended family…you are not welcome at family reunions for the other side.
  28.  Loss of mutual friends. They usually pick sides or get divided like other marital property.
  29.  Feelings of helplessness, like being in quick sand and overwhelmed with life.
  30.  Loneliness, loneliness, loneliness. Everyone has a life and you don’t anymore (you thought divorce meant freedom).

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8 thoughts on “30 Unforeseen Cons of Divorce

  • November 20, 2016 at 9:00 am
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  • December 6, 2016 at 1:29 pm
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    How do I save my marriage when my husband thinks he has a right to have extra marital affairs? He chooses not to change regardless of how many times he has been caught. He never even bother to apologise but continues as normal and rather be “angry” for days to weeks like I am the one who did wrong. I don’t discuss the matter but just look at him hoping he would at least open up and tell me what should the way forward be. I have requested him over and over to include me in his issues and to discuss his struggles but to no avail. I have suggested marriage mentoring and counselling from church and he refused my suggestions. I booked us to the professional psychologist outside church and he still said it doesn’t benefit him. Please help because I have come to the end of my rope.

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    • December 6, 2016 at 9:33 pm
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      Good afternoon.. I would strongly encourage you to give us a call to talk with Amber or Johnny about how you can motivate your spouse to seek Marriage Help.. 615-472-1161

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  • December 11, 2017 at 8:12 am
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    Is this a Canadian site are your services available in Calgary Alberta

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    • December 26, 2017 at 8:29 pm
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      Hi Chris!! We are located in the United States, but our services such as marriage coaching and online courses are offered internationally. Thanks!

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  • July 25, 2018 at 11:16 am
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    Good post…makes one reconsider their decision before getting it all wrong.

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  • September 2, 2018 at 3:32 am
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    I am looking for a balanced perspective regarding my marriage and I don’t want religion to be part of my decision making. If this is a religious resource, please let me know.

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    • September 5, 2018 at 7:33 pm
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      Hi, Tamara! Everyone on staff at Marriage Helper holds a Christian faith. Our workshops are based on Christian principles, but we work with couples from all religions and walks of life. Everyone is respected.

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