img-joe-faceDr. Joe Beam is an internationally known and respected sexologist and authority on love, marriage and sex. He received his PhD from the University of Sydney. He is the founder and chair of Marriage Helper based in Franklin, Tennessee, just south of Nashville.

He has designed and developed courses, workshops and seminars to help troubled marriages for over two decades. He has been seen on nationwide media and spoken to countless couples through live seminars, dedicated radio programs and books. Today he dedicates most of his time to researching and developing new ways to help couples in crisis. Old ways don’t always work in today’s human environment. You’ll agree that times have changed since your parents were married and your issues are not the same. Our approach to bringing back the passion and energy in a marriage is dynamic and effective.

Saving marriages is not an occupation for Dr. Beam. It is a mission – a mission that has consumed his heart for decades. “My original goal was to reduce divorce in this country by ten percent over a ten year period,” explains Beam. “I came to realize that we couldn’t do this by only helping marriages in trouble. We had to educate couples to change the way they live so their marriage could be all it could be.” This type of broader thinking and the methodology used to deliver the message is having a huge impact on families today. By reaching beyond the mind and into the heart and soul of men and women, love finds new ways to allow couples to communicate and create a relationship that is aware but not conducive to divorce.

Seeing the results of his mission in multiplied thousands has not only strengthened Joe’s resolve but added even more momentum to the mission. Today, the popular idea that divorce is a fact of life is being challenged vigorously. Saving marriages is not a job, it’s an all consuming passion and every marriage saved is a testimony that the mission can be accomplished.

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Dr. Joe Beam has been such an instrumental figure in my life. He is such a great counselor and adviser and has so much knowledge not only about things of the Lord, but also on marriage and relationships. I don’t know what I would have done during a very difficult time in my life if I hadn’t had Joe to talk to and seek wisdom from…”
          Sara Evans, Entertainer, Award-Winning Country Music Artist

Here are a few of Joe’s appearances:
  • NBC’s Today Show
  • ABC’s Good Morning America
  • Focus on the Family Radio
  • Fox Business
  • The Montel Williams Show
  • NBC’s Weekend Today Show
  • The Morning Show with Mike and Juliet
  • The Dave Ramsey Show
  • Better Homes and Gardens magazine
  • People magazine
  • MSNBC online

…and many other TV programs, radio shows, magazines, and newspapers attracted to Dr. Beam’s phenomenal success level with troubled marriages (if your marriage needs help, click here).

Additionally, Dr. Joe Beam has written several books, many magazine articles, online articles, courses, seminars, and workshops both for the corporate world and the public. He founded Marriage Helper and serves as its Chairman.

The Smart Marriages Conference designates him as a Master Teacher. He has been invited to lecture on many university campuses and at several national events. Dr. Beam received his PhD in bio-medical science (focus: sexology) from the University of Sydney, consistently rated one of the top fifty universities in the world.

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More About Joe

Beam was born in Rose Hill, Alabama. He has been married to his wife, Alice, for, as he says, “42 years, give or take three.” They are the parents of three grown daughters and have two grand-children.

He has a BA degree in Bible from Amridge University in Montgomery, Alabama. He also studied at Faulkner University. He is currently completing his PhD in Biomedical Science in the field of Sexology at the University of Sydney.

Joe’s Expertise

Beam’s expertise as a marriage and relationship expert came after his own life fell apart; he lost his family and spiraled into a life of alcohol and drugs. Though painful, he describes his eventual recovery as miraculous. He says it was “by the grace of God” that he remarried his former wife, Alice, and redeemed his life. Beam educated himself on becoming the best husband and father possible; founding what was to become one of the largest marriage ministries in America. His expertise is recognized not only by the Christian community but also by national programs such as NBC’s Today Show, ABC’s Good Morning America, Focus On The Family and many others.

Beam is now founder and chair of Marriage Helper, researching and developing programs to help marriages in crisis. He is in high-demand as a speaker for organizations, churches and corporations to share his insights and expertise on relationships; marriage, coworkers, managers/ employees, parents/ teens, singles looking for love and other relationships. Over the years, more than 200,000 people have enrolled in his courses, seminars and workshops.

Author of numerous books, Beam’s most recent title is The Art of Falling In Love (Simon & Schuster, 2012).  Beam and his wife Alice collaborated with Dr. Nick and Nancy Stinnett to author the book Fantastic Families. Other of his titles include the best-seller Seeing The Unseen, about spiritual warfare, a powerful book to strengthen marriages entitled Becoming One, a book about what Heaven will be like based on what the Bible actually says entitled, The True Heaven, and Getting Past Guilt, about the amazing grace of God,

Beam describes himself as a “learner and voracious reader.” In addition to the volumes of material he reads in his research, Beam also enjoys pleasure reading and fishing, though “I don’t get to go as often as I’d like.”

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23 thoughts on “Dr. Joe Beam

  • May 20, 2016 at 8:29 pm

    My husband and I have been separated for 5 months. During this time, he has not tried one thing to put it back together. I have done everything I know of to win him back with no positive results. He suffers from unforgiveness, anger and has all the signs of being a narcissist. I feel emotionally broken. He won’t even do individual counseling at church much less couples counseling. I want to do the love path and try the no communication, PIES, etc. Its so hard not to contact him or text him and when I do, he is obviously annoyed. He says he’s “done” but yet hasn’t said he wants out or commits to divorce. Its almost like he is playing mind games with me just to keep me upset. After 16 years of it I am almost ready to throw in the towel. Please tell me what I can do to get past the urge to do the things I shouldn’t and just leave him alone and will the love path work for us?

    • April 12, 2017 at 9:19 pm

      I am in your boat…pray for me because mine said divorce even though , he has not filed. ..I am waiting for the papers & each day I am more & more anxious. ..LASTLY, he left me a message saying HE WANTED nothing TO TALK TO HIM ABOUT…EXCEPT THE DIVORCE OR THE HOUSE. ..HE lives in his own apartment & is seeing or having an emotionall affair with a coworker! !!

  • October 31, 2016 at 1:12 am

    I really need your help!! I am 5 months from marrying my fiancée and I believe that we have gone through too much to go through with the marriage. We have decided to listen to your podcasts daily and discuss them at night. We need guidance!!

  • November 4, 2017 at 10:27 am

    I’m a 52 year oldchristian man. Throughout our marriage we’ve struggled with differing sex drives my wife would often say no and I would feel frustrated and rejected. We’ve been married 26 years had 3 kids and sex has been sometimes great for short bursts and then back to doing it a couple of times a month. Recently though I have started to suffer ed so even in the rare ocassions we do seek to have together Ihave become a flop quite literally. In my head I really want sex that hasn’t changed but during sexual intimacy most times its me making it happen for her doing whatever it takes to get her going but now it’s not happening for me. My feelings of rejection have recently over spilled into porn and even seeking to stray with online chat sites and hook up sites. I know porn doesn’t help but when I turn to my wife and she says no often in frustration I turn to porn and think maybe someone else might want me need to feel wanted and appreciated. I am a sincere christian I love Jesus but I feel trapped in a sex less marriage and now even when sex is on offer I can’t perform. I feel really miserable my wife knows I get annoyed about the rejection but for years now I have turned away from the not tonight to silently suffer because talking never changed her saying no.

  • February 2, 2018 at 2:10 am

    Hi been married for 31 years husband been unfaithful exchange sexual word’s to female friends for 2or 3 mths. Husband forgot cellphone and I saw the texting. I confront him and said they were just words. His cellphone was fill with numbers plus nude girls. He wants to work are marriage. But I don’t trust him .

  • April 19, 2018 at 6:25 pm

    I’m 37 yrs old. I’ve been with my husband since I was 16 and he was 13. We have 3 children together. Ages 20,16, and 6. My husband is an addict and due to his addiction he has been in and out of several prisons. I’ve thought about leaving several times but never have bc I want to make it work. He’s incarcerated presently will be getting out Jan. 2019. This time has been 3 yrs locked up. He calls and we try to talk but I have so much anger that the conversation doesn’t ever end well. He rarely asks to talk to the kids and that bothers me… he tells me he wants to get out and do good but I’ve heard it to many times I don’t know if it will be true or not. Do you think we have a chance to make it work?? Or do you think this is over?

  • April 30, 2018 at 1:27 pm

    We need marriage counseling now.

    • August 27, 2018 at 8:04 pm

      Hello Walter-

      We have many resources for you at Marriage Helper. Please give us a call at 866-903-0990.

  • June 8, 2018 at 3:56 am

    Dr. Beam,
    Thank you for sharing you experience about Limerence, I was asking God for help and He lead me to your YouTube video about “The 3 Phases of Limerence”. Thank you much for sharing, it help me so much to know that this is not just something that happened to me and I’m not alone. I’m currenting approaching the end of phase 3. I have zero contact with the LO and my wife took me back as well and Jesus saved my marriage. If you have any material that covers the next step after Limerence, as far as how to be a husband again please lead me to where I can find this material. Thank you once again, May the Lord bless you for your openness.

    • August 29, 2018 at 8:47 pm

      Hi, Christopher. We are so glad to hear you are working towards saving your marriage.
      This article talks about how to get over limerence after ending an affair:
      If you have any questions please call us at 866-903-0990, we would be happy to help!

  • November 15, 2018 at 1:43 am

    Hi, do you have workshops in Australia or information to help online.
    My husband has said he wants out in 3 years when our youngest finishes school so he has a plan. I am devastated. he has said its not you, its me, you are not what I want anymore. What do I do. We have been married 20 years.

    • November 19, 2018 at 3:25 pm

      Hi, Adelle! We offer coaching internationally, and we have a few programs available internationally as well. Please call us at 866-903-0990 so we can get you connected!

  • December 8, 2018 at 2:46 pm

    I have been married for 21 years we have 6 children 19, 17, 15, 13, 6, and 3. 5 girls and 1 boy (3 year old). I have known my husband since junior high we were best friends for several years. We have spent most of our married life in school and training for his career. He finished 6 years ago. A year and a half ago he told me he as in an emotional affair with someone 18 years younger than us. We went to counseling for several months. He said he didn’t know what he wanted. Last May the girl moved (she worked with him). He said he didn’t want to be married and moved out. She has since moved back and they are basically living together. His job has suffered he has lost many opportunities. Our four oldest children won’t have anything to do to him because when they confronted him he defended the girl and put them down. We are in the middle of a divorce. I know this is not who he is. At the beginning we met and went over finances every two weeks paid the bills and split the difference. Now he has cut me off financially threatened to let our house go into foreclosure etc. I am trying to get temporary orders put into place. Now we are going to mediation which we have tried previously but did not get anywhere. He wants me to force my older children to go with him. I know that he is deep into limerence. This is not who he is we have raised our children in a faith that preaches families are eternal. Now he has walked away from that faith. He now drinks, gambles, and has gone against all the beliefs we have grown up with

  • February 14, 2019 at 6:29 am

    Hi Joe, I’ve been married for 4 years now, have 1 kid and he’s 3 yrs old now. I’m having an affair for almost 1 year now. I’ve decided to leave my lover n work on my marriage. I love my lover no doubt, but know it’s just not the right thing to leave my wife, as i still love her n dont want to lose my son, they mean the world to me. But my lover is deeply in love with me n I love her too. I’m in a confused mindset right now as I couldn’t decide what I’m I gonna do. Plz help me, as i can’t open up to anyone else out here

  • March 3, 2019 at 3:57 am

    My husband had an affair with an old girlfriend which lasted 9years. Havnt listened to your talk on limerance, he pretty much fits the bill, gathering from what I’ve been told. The one major difference though is that over this entire period, despite being physically intimate, they never actually had sex. Also, the day I found out, my husband was so shocked (at himself apparently), that he broke things off with her without being asked and if he is to be believed, he never gave her a second thought. Can you please explain this phenomenon to me?
    I have difficulty wrapping my head around this, as the messages that they exchanged, were very intimate, sexy, loving, caring, expressing soulmates , wanting to be together in heaven, etc. The were in daily contact throughout the day every day. How did he go from that to absolutely nothing in an instantm
    I lool forward to your response.
    Thank you

    • March 8, 2019 at 8:24 pm

      Hi, Irma. Please call us at 866-903-0990 so we can help!

  • March 6, 2019 at 11:30 pm

    Hi, Joe –
    I have listened to so many of your audio recordings and sometimes feel so encouraged, but really still am struggling with my situation. Married for 26 years, two teenagers………………husband wants no physical contact, we were together one time in 2018 and in 2019 nothing. It was pretty bad from 2016 and on – he is NOT having an affair and no porn, I am 99% sure of BOTH. I do feel he is depressed, has low -T (neither of which he will get treatment for – believe me, I’ve tried every approach possible), AND there is a ton of resentment from when he believes I never initiated, which is incorrect (after discussing, I think our communication was crossing as I WAS initiating, but not in a way he knew that’s what I was doing). So now he tells me he has lost all desire and doesn’t ever see it coming back – “Can’t we just be friends and keep our family together?” is what he says. I am feeling so lonely, neglected, and unwanted. I am a fitness buff, 5’6″ and 130 pounds, keep myself up pretty well, and he says there is nothing physically that turns him off to me, he just has no desire and doesn’t see it as a big deal. He gets angry if I mention counseling. I also have cited some of the Bible verses that are mentioned in some of the audio podcasts. NOTHING. What can I do???

    • March 8, 2019 at 8:11 pm

      Hi, Shay. Thank you for reaching out to us. We have many resources available that have helped couples in similar situations as yours. Please call us at 866-903-0990 so we can get you connected to a client representative, and they will give you more information.

  • April 6, 2019 at 3:48 pm

    My wife and I have been separated since November 2nd, 2018. Our 21st anniversary was March 28th.
    She left me and our twin twelve year old boys, as well as most of her belongings.

    We’ve had ups and downs like any relationship (I work in law enforcement and would sometimes bring home negativity; our intimacy has dropped the last year or so, due to our job schedules, raising children, one with ADHD and ODD, who she battled with frequently, and due to some “male issues “ on my part I was too proud to admit), but never anything I thought serious and I have never been dishonest or unfaithful to her.

    She approached me in August and said she felt like roommates. She wanted us to reconnect and she wanted time to herself to do things she enjoyed (horses). I told her to stop working weekends and go enjoy horses and time to herself, and I began trying to improve our intimacy.

    From August till November, she was gone every weekend out of town to horse shows with her girlfriend. I made attempts to improve intimacy between us, with limited success.

    She had a fight with our son on Halloween over a costume. He hit her, she called the police and me at work. I was due to leave work in half an hour and told her I’d be home.

    Minutes later, she texted me 911. I thought she was telling me she had called 911, but she was wanting me to leave work and come home immediately, which I misunderstood.

    When I got home, she was upset I didn’t respond to her immediately. She took one of our boys to a Halloween party and when she came home didn’t mention the incident.

    The next day she called me at work and said was leaving the following day. I told her let’s talk about it.
    We had dinner the following evening and she wanted a separation. She said she needed a break from the kids and life. Said I was a good guy, dad, etc. and she was going to her moms near by (2 miles away). She refused to change her mind and would not tell the boys- I had to do so after she left.

    Turned out she went to her moms a couple days a week, then would disappear a few days. Her mother asked her where she was and she wouldn’t answer. Then she showed up at her moms house with a guy she said was a “friend.”
    Her mother told her never to do that again.
    We learned she had been driving 70 miles away and spending weekends with him.

    Long story short, she had been having contact with him since at least December 2017. Probably began as an emotional affair but went physical. After being gone 30 days she wanted a divorce. She moved away from her home town, moved in with this guy, his brother and his brothers girlfriend.

    She missed thanksgiving, Christmas, New Years, Valentine’s Day, our anniversary. She said he’s the love of her life and she hasn’t loved me in years. She has had very little contact with her children.
    Looking back, there were signs but I never thought she was that kind of person. She took her wedding ring off, changed her hair and got her own phone and line, saying she did it for work purposes. She also challenged me whether I was having an affair, which I would never do.

    I’m devastated. She lives and works 70 miles away. We’re still married and she hasn’t filed for divorce but has said she wants one. I don’t know what to do; I have been doing therapy and counseling with my therapist and church. I tried to get her to do counseling-she went twice. Told the therapist how much she loves her new life.

    We did marriage counseling a decade ago, after our boys were born. She suffered from pretty bad postpartum depression. We only did a couple sessions.

    I truly love this woman and despite what has happened want her back and to save my marriage. What should I do?

    • May 6, 2019 at 2:38 pm

      Hi, we are so sorry to hear about what you are going through. Please call us at 866-903-0990 so we can help.

      • July 19, 2019 at 8:29 pm

        Thank you. I filed for divorce on June 24th, 2019, at her insistence. She told me she wasn’t in love with me and loved her affair partner. She told my son this as well. I’m completely devastated.
        Is there any hope at all for us? I feel like my life has ended.

  • June 30, 2019 at 3:55 pm

    I wish I had found your website earlier. My husband and I have been separated and have been going to traditional talk therapy -that doesn’t work. Both of us leave emtionally charged. We go from having a great week to declaring divorce. I wish I had learned about no contact and SMART communication when he first moved out. I just got served this past Thursday. I still want to save my marriage.


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