prayer

Sometimes people ask me:

“What can I pray to save my marriage? What words will bring my spouse back? Is there a prayer for a troubled marriage?”

Sometimes, it’s hard to pray. Especially when you don’t know what to say, you don’t have the strength, and honestly, you aren’t sure that it’s going to make a difference

Maybe you aren’t a religious person, but you have been grasping at anything you can to bring peace into your life again…this is for you, too.

I get it. I’ve been there, too. And there’s nothing worse than feeling completely helpless and waiting for something to happen – especially when you have no control.

When your life is in the midst of chaos, it’s hard to see anything but the middle of the storm that you are in.

I want to encourage you today that God hears your prayers for your marriage. He works all things together for good for those who love Him.

We can’t see the big picture right now. But one day, we will. And we will see how, once again, it all worked out for our good.

I don’t have a concoction of magic words for you that will make everything right overnight. No one does.

But if you need some help in finding the words to pray, I wanted to give this to guide you:

God, I know that You are good, even though I can’t see the good right now. I know that You love me, even though I don’t feel You right now. God, please come closer to me. Fill me with Your Spirit. Rid my heart of the anger and hurt I have towards my spouse. Surround me with comfort, strength, and wisdom. Pour Your love into me, into my spouse, and into my marriage. Help me to wait. Be with me in the waiting.

I want to invite you to see what God might be showing you through all of this. Even if you feel alone, He hasn’t abandoned you. Even if you feel weak, that is where His strength comes in. Even if you feel like He isn’t answering, stay the course.

And while you wait:

  • Look for others you can encourage in your life. It’s easy to get wrapped up in all of our own troubles…but there are so many others out there struggling as well. We need each other.
  • Be extra mindful of the blessings you do have in your life. There are probably many ways that God is answering prayers in other areas, but our tunnel-vision on our current situation keeps us from seeing it.

If you need prayers for your marriage, we want to pray for you. If you need to talk, we will talk with you.  We will listen. We will encourage. We will show you how there IS hope for your situation (maybe even when no one else will).

We care.

Here’s to hope,

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33 thoughts on “A Prayer for a Troubled Marriage

  • May 29, 2018 at 6:44 am
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    My wife wanted a divorce then decided after all to stay. Since that decision, she has rejected me physically, spiritually, and emotionally.
    Right now we are living like roommates. No matter what I do to change the dynamics, nothing works. She has reluctantly agreed to working the “Oneness” based on the same title by Joe Beam. What they described in the book is where my heart is. But other times she agreed to counseling of reading an article, she backs out. We went to 3 sessions with a marriage counselor that I didn’t like, but still went in order to save my marriage. Now she makes excuses when I suggest that we go back. If she rejects working through the workbook, then I’ll suggest going to one of your seminars. If she rejects that, then I’m leaving. I love my wife, but I’m tired of this marriage and the constant rejection and criticism I have to deal with daily. I haven’t had a good night sleep since the last year. If I knew that what is happening now was going to happen, I would have accepted her desire to divorce. Pray for us Pernell and Cathy.

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  • July 1, 2018 at 10:02 pm
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    I also believe in prayer and God. The prayer I read from this article really gave me the strength, hope and relieved me from the stress I had during the day.

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  • July 25, 2018 at 9:01 am
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    I dont kniw how to participate in today’s podcast, july 25th. Is there a number to call?
    Thank you and God bless you
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    9043770635

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    • August 22, 2018 at 6:53 pm
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      Give us a call at 866-903-0990. We’d love to help!

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  • July 28, 2018 at 2:50 pm
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    Please pray for my marriage my husband wants to end our marriage but I really don’t want to break our family us my husband is having an affair I can sense that this other person means something to him as she was there when I felt I was not.

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  • August 17, 2018 at 9:25 pm
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    My son in law is not saved & Daughter is their marriage is bad need 🙏🙏🙏🙏

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    • August 20, 2018 at 7:49 pm
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      We believe every marriage can be saved! Call us at 866-903-0990 or email us at info@marriagehelper.com if you would like to receive information about our workshops.

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  • August 31, 2018 at 3:59 am
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    Please pray for my husband and myself. I don’t know what to do, it just seems like he has given up lately. We both are in church and recently baptized. Tonight he told me I broke our family because I was upset when he consoled his daughter after I punished her. It escalated from there we were both a little childish but all our children heard him yelling at me calling me names. I made a vow to this man and I can’t give up. I won’t. But it seems like he is just done. God makes the impossible-possable . He is our only hope. Please prey

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  • October 28, 2018 at 12:39 am
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    I am not a particularly religious person but I am spiritual. Upon discovery of my husband’s affair, I was so lost I immediately turned to prayer.
    God has answered my prayers. The Holy Spirit too satins words from my mind, and mouth(self hatred, assigning motive)and the night I prayed for truth, my husband phone was stolen! His main communication is via fb messenger so he had to login on my phone. I debated on reading everything. I read his lies to the affair partner, as well as bragging about sexual exploits (mostly false.) But the thing that really shocked me and opened my eyes is that my imagination was 10 times bigger than reality! He knows I read it all, his reasoning was the same as mine, if I hadn’t then I didn’t care. He got a new phone and keeps it locked. I’ve made no attempt to get into it. Praying has kept me sane along with venting. I vent while i drive, then I noticed the dash cam! Lol. I told my husband he is welcome to listen to it, but he probably won’t want to!

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  • November 8, 2018 at 12:37 am
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    Please pray for my marriage. My wife left me and has not contacted me at all. I need God to heal my marriage and left my wife come home.

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    • March 25, 2019 at 8:45 pm
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      Believe in Christ !! Miracles happen!

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  • November 29, 2018 at 2:38 pm
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    Please pray for my marriage…..my husband has been out of our home for two months, living with another woman, he has been using drugs and had distanced himself from not only me but his children, mother and grandchild. I am asking prayers for restoration in the marriage, between him and his children, between him and his mother. Healing from drug addiction. I need prayers to take away my fear, to give not only forgiveness to him but the female involved. Help me so that we can better communicate and work through any issues that we may have that have caused a breakdown in our marriage. Pray that God will work on me as well revealing to me things I need to do to change to help our marriage be restored, giving back the hope, love and intimacy we once had for one another.

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  • January 14, 2019 at 6:43 pm
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    PLEASE PRAY FOR ME. MY HUSBAND IS A DRUG ADDICT AND IS TORN BETWEEN ME AND ANOTHER WOMAN. HE HAS NEVER TREATED ME IN SUCH A WAY. THE DRUGS HAVE SUCH A STRONG POWER OVER HIS LIFE. HE IS NOT WILLING TO QUIT. I HAVE SPOKEN TO GOD EVERY DAY EVERY CHANCE I GET TO LET HIM SEE THE LIGHT AND GIVE UP THESE DEMONS. THIS MAN MEANS THE WORLD TO ME. I HAVE NEVER LEFT HIM WHEN HE FELT ALONE. NOW I FEEL ALONE AND LIKE THE PERSON I GAVE MY HEART TO HAS TRADED ME FOR SOMETHING AND SOMEONE ELSE. PLEASE PRAY FOR MY MARRIAGE AND MY HUSBAND TO HEAL. I KNOW I HAVE TO PUT IT IN GOD’S HANDS. I WILL NOT GIVE UP ON HIM.

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  • January 15, 2019 at 10:51 pm
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    Please pray my Girl will find God! I want nothing more than for her to live her life full of joy and abundantly, with, or without me.

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  • January 25, 2019 at 11:00 pm
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    Please pray for me and my two little girls, my husband walked out on us the day before our 16 years anniversary I wasn’t prepared for it. He’s been gone for a month now no explanation of why and all suddenly he called and accused me of having an affair. I’ve been praying everyday asking God to forgive him and bring him back to us… I’M SO LOST

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  • January 31, 2019 at 9:26 am
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    Please pray for my marriage!!

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  • February 5, 2019 at 6:17 am
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    Please pray for my marriage. My Dad is battling stage 4 throat cancer. My husband left me this weekend, after 28 1/2 yrs of marriage! I am devastated. I want to save our marriage. I think there is someone else. I am asking that God clear his heart & mind & bring him back to our family. In Jesus’ name I pray! Amen!

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  • February 8, 2019 at 4:53 am
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    Please pray for my marriage, my husband, my children and myself. My husband got his LO pregnant back in July. She is due in April. She’s 26 and he is 50. We’ve been married for almost 29 years and never had any major issues in our marriage. We were actually considered by so many people in our church and community, as being the model couple. I had no idea anything was wrong. He started an affair with my assistant and now he’s filing for divorce to marry her. I have no idea what to do! I’ve been praying diligently for 8 months but things are only worse. He finally had the divorce paperwork filed last week. I’ve tried everything to restore our marriage but he doesn’t want that. He has vacillated for several months, but as of December, he’s done and wants a divorce. He still contacts me almost daily and we chat about random things. But, he still wants out. Please pray!!

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  • February 9, 2019 at 3:31 pm
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    Please pray for my husband and myself. our marriage is a mess and I don’t know what to do anymore. The first time he left he was having an affair with someone 28 yrs younger than him. He moved out and moved in with her for two year, then he moved back home with me and that lasted about two years but he started another affair with someone the same age and he packed up and took off again with his woman and it’s been 4 years now. Sometimes he trys to act like he’s my friend and has never done anything wrong, sometimes he’s cold and sometimes he’s all the other stuff you talk about. he says he loves me but not in love with me and he doesn’t want to be with me, but if I say fine, I want to get a divorce he gets irritated that I would even consider divorcing him. He pays the house payment and a couple bill of the house I’m living in and he lives 45 miles from here. he said the other day If I get a divorce I can’t leaving in the house anymore. My name is on the deed with his so it belongs to both of us. He’s also buried himself in debt so deep I don’t know if he will ever get out of it.. I’m about to a breaking point because I can’t deal with any of it anymore. So please help me and pray for both of us and pray for our marriage to work out, Hopefully soon.

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    • February 15, 2019 at 7:54 pm
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      Hi, please call us at 866-903-0990 so we can help!

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  • February 13, 2019 at 7:55 pm
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    Please pray for my marriage. I have been married for 12 years. We have a ten-year-old son. My husband has struggled with his sexual orientation as well as being obsessed with a married woman he went to high school with, online stalking her, writing love letters. Her husband said if he tried to contact her again they were getting a restraining order. She has nothing to do with him and never has spoken to him since high school. My husband is delusional and believes she drives all over town in different cars and follows him, drives by our house, sends her friends to the park to follow him, follows us to the bar, around the grocery store etc. The husband said she is a stay at home mother and hasn’t left the house in 6 months. My husband thinks Angels send him numbers and visions about him and that woman being together. My husband said that one day he ” woke up” and was suddenly miserable and didn’t love me. That he thought of me as a best friend or sister ( how insulting!) but when he looks at me he doesn’t feel the same way I do. He said having sex with me makes him miserable and he feels depressed and suicidal all the time. Then one day he switched his married facebook status to say nothing. I asked him about it and he got so angry he slept on the couch. The next morning he said he didn’t want to be married to me anymore. A huge blowup happened that has never occurred before. He has been living back with his mother for almost a month now. I’ve been a good wife. I’m not perfect and don’t weigh 10 pounds. But I cook, clean and try and look my best for him. We used to have such a beautiful relationship. We’d talk all the time, enjoy the same music and films. We get each other odd sense of humor. I adore my husband and I’m always attracted to him. I just want this hold that Satan and maybe a combination of mental health too, to go away. I want him to remember how he once felt. Restore our relationship, rekindle the fire. I’m scared and confused. I’m trying not to push him and beg him to come back. I do tell him I love him and when he leaves I tell him i’ll miss him. He just says ” I know you do”. He comes for a visit and will sleepover in my son’s room id we’ve had a few drinks because we won’t drink and drive, and one night he slept next to me. I was respectful and didn’t make any moves or suggestions. Please pray for me and my husband Jesse… we need God here strengthening us.

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    • February 15, 2019 at 8:23 pm
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      Hi, thank you for sharing part of your story with us. We offer educational resources, not therapy. If your husband is feeling suicidal, here is the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline number: 1-800-273-8255.

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  • February 21, 2019 at 4:35 am
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    My husband told me a week ago that he was in a relationship with a former coworker (someone who I had developed a friendship with) and was going to leave me for her. The next day, she decided to go back to her boyfriend (another of his coworkers). When that happened my husband spent 3 hours crying and telling me he didn’t want to leave me. But now he’s confused and can’t let go of his feelings for her. I’m doing my best to be patient, I can honestly say I haven’t been vindictive and for what the situation is I really haven’t demonstrated much anger. I realize where I went wrong in our relationship for a very long time and am now willing to get help with treating my depression and anxiety. As I haven’t been to the doctor yet I’m having recurrent panic attacks and can’t seem to manage my emotions well. I don’t know if he needs space or comfort or what. I don’t know what to do with myself. I’ve spent countless hours praying, watching videos, researching and doing the love dare for him. Please pray for us. I love him and our marriage matters.

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  • March 21, 2019 at 3:13 am
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    My wife I been married for 19years and suddenly she wants to end our marriage. I love her so much that I can’t believe this is happening. I’m scared of losing her and I don’t want to break our family apart. She keeps on saying that I need to learn to let go so that it gets easy to love someone. She told me to look for someone else, but I replied to her that “I love you and you are my wife. I am also a Christian husband. It would be a sin if I do that.” Then she said, “I don’t want to end up doing sin either if I want to see someone else”. My wife is in love with someone she found in an online dating site. She chats almost every night. I still believe there’s still a chance and hope for us to make this marriage back together again because they haven’t met yet. Last night she told me don’t treat her too nice or I’ll end up disappointed. I told her a husband should treat her wife like a loving husband should. And she said, “Even if you don’t let me go, one day I will leave you”. What’s going on now? I can’t believe this is happening to me.

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    • March 22, 2019 at 4:10 pm
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      Hi, Charles. We are so sorry you are going through this. We have worked with thousands of couples in similar situations as yours. There is hope. Please call us at 866-903-0990 so we can help.

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  • April 26, 2019 at 7:01 pm
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    Please pray for my marriage. My husband of 18 years left home 6 weeks ago and says he wants a divorce. He says he’s not crazy in love with me and he’s had multiple affairs and no woman should have to be with a man like that. I have forgiven him of the last and he refuses to believe it. He has always been hot and cold for God. There were times in our marriage when he was on fire for God and he was such an amazing husband then. I want to save my marriage but right now we don’t even speak. He doesn’t reach out to me at all. Says he just has to let go and start over, start fresh. He’s unwilling to consider anything that would bring us back together. I’m just sick. I never saw this coming. I have been drawing nearer to God than ever before and I’m trying so hard to be still and be faithful. It’s a struggle. I keep trying to reach him but nothing is working. I’m afraid to completely leave him alone. Please pray for his salvation and that God will do a work in us and lead us to restoration.

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  • May 24, 2019 at 2:58 am
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    Hello, asking for prayer. Have been married 13 years, and my wife has left me for the 2nd time in 2 years. She has no desire for reconciliation and has told me she is going to file for divorce. We are both believers, and we have 3 kids, 13, 10, and 8. The kids and I are living in the home still, and they are all struggling. I am a firm believer that God’s design for marriage is permanent, and even if my wife divorces me, and eventually remarries, I will never seek another relationship or remarry. Through this website and also ultimatehusband.com I have learned SO MUCH. I have never lost hope for our marriage, but have been strengthened by these resources. During our 1st separation I made so many mistakes handling the situation, and wish I would have come across this page during that time. We were doing so well and thriving after our 1st reconciliation, and I was kind of blindsided after she changed her mind again and left. I am focusing on myself, and know that I can only control my choices and actions, and I’m also trying to be as strong as I can for my kids, and spending as much time with them as possible. Starting to ramble on a bit, so I will finish with again just asking for prayer. Thank you.

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  • May 28, 2019 at 12:20 am
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    My husband wants to end our Marriage my mother in-laws our coming against us she doesn’t like me and say things to me when he is not around so I tell him this and he doesn’t believe me and my sister in-law is also involved in it as well they have made a Facebook account bout me and open other accounts in my name putting me down call me trash and other things please I need all the prayers I can get right. Now I pray and have had my family praying as well thank you

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  • May 29, 2019 at 6:59 pm
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    Please pray for me my husband of 10 years has left saying he is not in love with me anymore. I pray his love comes back and i pray for strength and guidance through this hard time.

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